“The One”: Love In All Its Glory

You just met somebody and you get this giddy feeling in your stomach. Days go by and you can’t stop thinking about this person. You may be feeling emotionally unstable because this is all new to you and it’s been a while since you’ve felt anything remotely close to this. It scares you. At the same time, you’re excited. So many conflicting feelings! Sound familiar?

“The one” is in many people

We tend to feel this exact way about meeting new, potential love-interests. Of course, everybody is different, but that’s typically how it all starts; the giddy feeling, loss of control of your thoughts and emotions, etc. In almost all of our long-term relationships, we think we found “the one”, and when it doesn’t work out, we tend to be hard on ourselves and question why we ever thought that in the first place. That’s because, at one point, you truly did think they were “the one”. Taking away from that past feeling could be detrimental to you and how you approach love today and in the future.

Past notions

“The one” hasn't always had the same meaning as it holds today. These include arranged marriages, marriage for status, or even just because it’s expected of you. These were all “the one” as well, just in different contexts. Rather than identifying “the one” in a love context, it was because your family thought they were a good match for you, or because your potential interest’s family is of a particular status. Whatever the case, the notion of “the one” is different to everybody. We have our own personal definition of who “the one” should be, and it’s up to us to find that.

In all honesty, we have many “ones” in our lives, and the last “one” we end up with is simply one that coincides with who we are at that moment. It may or may not change, but until then, they’re the one. Love is a beautiful thing, so why not explore more of it on our online library, www.onzenn.com, for titles like Last First Day, by Carrie Brown. In this riveting novel, the author takes us on a journey looking back at an elderly couple’s long life of love and joy. Perhaps it’ll inspire you to keep that love inside you alive and well!